All couples in long term relationships or marriages have this challenge of keeping things spicy. It’s normal for people who spend a lot of time together to lose the spark of desire that comes with wanting to make someone theirs. But once you’ve committed, which you have by moving in with him, you have to work a little harder to keep things hot.
Don’t forget that this is the man who pursued you, and whom you gave chase to, 3 years ago. Try to capture some of who you were back then to get him to be a little more of who he was back them, too! In other words, don’t hang out in sweats with no makeup all the time. Make sure you keep up your grooming routine the way you did when you were dating. I know this may sound a little retro, but it works. Men really want their women to look great and feel sexy. So take care of yourself that way to lure him back.
Make some of the time you do have together celebratory. Keep date night where you get dolled up and have dinner and a movie or some other event. See if you can have dates during the week, too. Meet him at lunch for a museum date or a picnic in the park.
Don’t get lazy in the romance area. Little love notes, sexy phone calls during the day and gifts that make him remember you’re still thinking of him — in [i]that[/i] way — will take you both far. 😉
I’ve also written a great book for people who write me with exactly the issue you have. It’s called Romantic Date Ideas, and you can get it right here [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url]. You’ll find all kinds of dates guaranteed to get both your motors running — and the details for the dates range from drinks, to food, to mood, to budget and more! You’ll like this book, and you can make these dates happen as written, or riff off them and give them your own personal touch.
I hope that helps. Let me know, if you do get the book, which dates work best for you! 🙂
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