[violetkitty]

Hello everyone. I would really love some feedback from others. I need to make a final decision when it comes to the guy I am dating.

We met online. After a couple of months he declared that he wanted to be exclusive. I agreed. I obviously put my online account on the backburner .

So when I happen to see my boyfriend still active online and chatting I asked him about it. He said, yes, I’m dating you but how will I know if “the one” is out there if I’m not looking. He says, You know, this is real life”.

My answer was that this is the whole point of dating. The reason you exclusivly date is to see if this person is The One. My take is that he wants all the goodies of dating while he’s looking around. I’m no dummy.
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there’s more but would love to hear from you all and see what you think so far. thanks!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sorry, but I’ve got to agree with the guy you’re dating. 😕 My general rule of thumb is to spend the first three months dating someone to figure out if he’s someone you want to continue dating. Committing to someone you’ve only known for a few months takes you out of circulation too early. It cuts off other opportunities and creates a serial dating situation which has it’s own problems. If, after three months of dating each other, you’re both still interested, you should spend the next three months dating, deciding if you want to be monogamous or not. It’s only at the six month point, if you agree to be mutually monogamous, that there’s any type of commitment. This set of rules goes for both men and women, and I’ve coined it because I think it’s the most productive way to really focus on finding Mr. or Ms. Right. 😉 I hope that helps. Let me know if you have any other questions. 🙂

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