[iinnaa]

I went on a date with this amazing guy we had a really great evening he tried kissing me few times and I would only do soft short kisses not sure why to be honest. He walked me home and tried to kiss once again and I said he would have to work for it. I texted him the next day and he texted back right away but I had to some assignments for night class I’m taking so I said that maybe we could talk later if managed to hide from his parents since he was going to spend the night at their place, and nothing from him. I texted again Monday evening and again he responded right away asking what I was doing and since I was still on my school work that’s what I said, I ended the texting saying i was going to eat dinner and for him to get some rest since he worked 12 hours that day and talk later to what he said ok and then again nothing from him. I know him for a few years he is a customer at my work but I initiated contact on an online dating site since i found him there by accident. since he didn’t call or text for 2 days I signed into the site and saw he was online got kind of upset since I though we really hit it off and ended up blocking him on the site 🙁
i did unblock him but it has now been over a week with no contact at all…
one of friends seems to think that since I didn’t kiss him and kept saying I was busy that he took that as a sign of me not really being into him. Is this the case and is there any way I can recover from this since I really do like the guy and would love to see him again. Please tell me what I can do

[violetkitty]

Just my two cents…but a real gentleman would reply to you, bad news or good. It’s just polite.

[iinnaa]

He did reply when I did message him. Nobody has initiate a contact in over a week now so I’m wondering if it would see too desperate if I send him a message now

[April Masini, your AskApril]

One of the best ways to figure out if a guy is interested in you is to see if he asks you out! Of course, letting him know you’re interested, by flirting with him, is the way he’ll see you on his radar. 😎 So flirt with him so he knows you’re interested, wait to see if he asks you out, and then make the date one that is alluring enough for him to want to ask you out again. 😀 If you’ve done all that, and he doesn’t ask you out, he’s not interested. It’s that simple. It sounds like you’re the one who initiated contact on the dating site, and initiated the texting after the first date. I’m not sure if he asked you out on a date, or if you did the asking….. But, for next time, it’s a better idea to let the guy do the initiating. 😉 It makes him feel like he’s in charge of the chase, which men love, and it gives you a clue as to the extent of his interest. The other thing I’m thinking, from what you’ve written, is that your texts to him were very perfunctory and practical. They weren’t sexy, flirty or interesting. If you want a guy to chase you, you have to give him something to chase after — not your calendar schedule. 😕

To recover, I think that when you do see him, you should flirt with him to try and re-cultivate his interest, but you shouldn’t chase after him, especially now.

I hope that helps!

[b]Everyone likes to be liked! If the advice you found on AskApril.com was helpful “like” us on FB — and tell a friend!
[url][/url]
And… you can follow my interviews and advice in the press on Twitter [i]@AskAprilcom[/i][/b]

[Member]

Posts