I’m not quite sure where to begin, so I will just start by saying that I’ve known this guy basically my whole life. We went to school together from elementary to high school. In middle school, he went with my family 5 hours away to watch a baseball game, after that we drifted apart and weren’t really close. Now, flash forward, were both 25… This time last year I was living in another state and we started chatting randomly on Facebook. Once I moved back into town he kept trying to hang out.
When I finally saw him the first few times, he was always very huggy/touchy feely/ rubbing my shoulder and I didn’t know how to react at first.(I liked the contact, but since it had been so long since I had seen him, I didn’t know if he was just being friendly) We went out with a bunch of friends and he acted the same, very touchy feely (putting his arm around me and laying his head on my head, swaying with the music) and that night he told me I was one of his best friends and that he had taken the job he was at because he had talked to me about it and I made him feel comfortable making that decision. He also asked me to help him with a project for work… just to help boost his sales… which is why we met for dinner; to discuss that project. It ended up being a night of laughter and talking about things we wanted for our futures. When we went to dinner and he insisted on paying. He opened up to me about all sorts of things when we went out.
I’m confused because we don’t talk constantly… He’s a workaholic and literally works all the time. He has so much going on at home. His dad is in pretty bad shape and he’s taking care of him. ( he’s an only child and his mom left years ago, so there’s no one to help him- he’s 25 using his savings to pay for his dad to live) My confusion comes from this- we don’t talk or see each other very often. He has toned down the touchy-feely stuff a lot now. It’s almost awkward when I go to leave, like we don’t know what to do… I’m waiting for him to initiate a hug and he seems either nervous or maybe doesn’t want to. He will text me, but sometimes I don’t hear from him for a week or two in-between. Sometimes when I text him, he will be short with me, but he is usually quick to reply, and if it takes him a while, he will tell me how busy he is with work. … I know his hours, so I know he’s busy, but am I just his good friend? Or is it possible for something in the future?
I commented when he told me how much he had going on at home that I would have never guessed he had that stuff going on, he seems so happy. He told me that he doesn’t let just anyone in, and Im one of his best friends and could ask him anything… But when we hang out we have such a good connection, we laugh so much and talk about everything. We even decided that we were going to start saving now to go to Europe next year together for a couple of weeks. What’s going on?
