[Potato]

I am 25. I am in a stable relationship for 5 years. I wanted to leave many times during these years but the guy is really good and caring and persuaded me to stay. It so happened that I got intimate with another guy friend recently and found that I am really missing on sex part in my current relationship. I told my boyfriend that I don’t feel attracted to him anymore. This is my first relationship and my current boyfriend is the first person I slept with and I am scared to even breakup. I am trying to put my best efforts in the relationship and I have been telling myself that it’s okay even if sex isn’t great. Can things get better? Should I just focus on current relationship, or I should breakup? My parents are getting worried about marriage and I don’t have any problem marrying and having kids with my present boyfriend. Only thing, I am not sure how important sex can be for our future as a couple.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sex is important — and it can, and usually does get better — but not without effort. In other words, you have to work at your sex life if you want it to improve, you can’t just wait for change to happen. 😉 For starters, I think you should buy the e-book I wrote for couples who want better sex, Romantic Date Ideas. You can get it here: [url]https://payhip.com/b/IT3S[/url]. It’s got lots of dates that you can create in your home or your area, that will naturally get your sex life going. Bottom line is that you have to put in some effort — whether it’s keeping your lingerie drawer stocked with sexy things to wear, or mixing it up and having sex in different places, or just being able to communicate to your partner what does and doesn’t work, as well as what you both enjoy and would like to try.

I hope that helps!

[Member]

Posts