[kimbulls]

Hi, i’ve been going out with this guy for over a year. We were living together at university, and still are-which i am assuming will make any sort of break up very hard!
Its not that i’m considering breaking up with him, because i love him. Yet i’m not happy half the time.
I used to be a girl that everyone loved and went out at night all the time and had loads of fun and friends, wheras he was the opposite and had never had any experience with girls prior to me.
However, i’ve now turned into a person who doesn’t want to be around people, hates going out and has ditched all her friends for her guy( I made alot of sacrifices to be with him, mainly with my friends, as they were either mainly guys, or we shared friends, or it was my best friend-and they do not get along. So i gradually stopped hanging out with them to make it wasier for us).
I hate the person i’ve become and feel really unhappy, especially as he goes out all the time now with our friends, and i either haven’t got the money to go out, or i’m at home visiting family when he does. It makes me feel really alone, and he knows it does, but i cant and wont stop him going out.
We argue all the time now, about little things and i hate it.
Help me so i dont ruin us!
Thanks

[DeepThought]

It might help if you could say some more about the guy…I don’t feel like we know too much about him from your description. Is he kind of a cynic and a misanthrope, doesn’t get along well with a lot of people, and so forth? Is that why he didn’t get along with your friends? If that’s true, or if he’s always moody and irritable and that’s why you argue all the time, you might have step back and ask if this is really something you want to keep going. If that’s not the right portrayal at all, please make it known what is.

[btdperson]

I am sure it will be hard to end it with this guy but it will not get any better. It is ridiculous to think you can be friends with guys. It is a slippery slope to spend times with the opposite sex, particularly if you are having problems. This guy sounds inconsiderate and it is his responsibility to make you feel comfortable with the situation you two have developed. You are too young to be living with someone. Keep him as a boyfriend and move out.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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