[VictoriaMyers]

Hello,
I have a lot on my mind with this. My boyfriend (ex, kinda complicated) is in the Marine Corps. He just started the journey and he’s now at mos school. We’ve know each since like 6th grade, and we’ve become great friends. About a month before he left for bootcamp we started talking and really getting to know each other. We started dating 2 days before he left for bootcamp. While he was away he wrote me letters and they wouldn’t come through for some reason. After 3 months he came home and it was like he never left. A couple of days later he told me “Heyy I know this is bad timing, but I don’t wanna be dishonest with ya. I don’t want to be in a relationship right now. With my new life, I’m gonna have alot of responsibility and stress. I feel that having a relationship would be too much on my mind. You prolly hate me now, and I understand. Just know that I’m sorry.” Of course I don’t hate him, I could never hate him. With all the stress of the new life, we both said that we would work on making the friendship grow and maybe try again down the road. I’m wondering how do I keep it alive while all this is going on? How can we/I get this back into a relationship where we are happy together? I would do anything to keep him that close in my life. He’s my everything and I don’t think I can part from him/move on.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It takes two people to make a relationship work, and if he’s being clear with you that he doesn’t want one right now, it’s a good idea to respect that. Otherwise you may find yourself wasting your time. Honestly, it sounds like you only really dated for several days. 😕 I know you’ve been friends with him and have known him for many years, but it’s good to be realistic.

My advice is to set your boyfriend sights elsewhere. If you try to make things work with someone who’s not interested, you’re going to have a hard time being available for other men.

Probably not what you want to hear, but I think that you’ll agree that this advise is really your best bet. 😉

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