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Hi April,

Thanks ahead of time for reading.

I hope you will excuse the inexperience 🙂.

So the story goes like this: I met this girl at a hostel and coincidentally I have a job in her hometown in China (I’m ethically chinese too). We’re in our twenties but I’m a few years older. From what I’ve seen for a week she seems shy and extremely inexperienced when it comes to dating (I might even be her first boyfriend). And she currently has no boyfriend (this is 100% proven).

Right now, she’s in school studying English and occasionally I would help her out as a friend. And as before, I coincidentally have a job in her hometown.

When we first met, she started off by voluntarily asked for my contact information.

And I remember one time when I jokingly mentioned a girlfriend, she gave a shocked/disappointed look (or so it looked like).

However, I once accidentally leaned a little close (not even on purpose) and she freaked out.

And to my best of knowledge, she has no obvious suitor.

After asking a few times, she agreed to go for dinner together a few days ago. I asked if she wanted to go for dinner again together when we get back to her home town (I’m leaving 5 days earlier) and she agreed to if she didn’t have class.

At the moment I’m not too sure if she likes me but then again why wait to be sure first. I could never have guessed some girls that liked me did so in the past.

As an expert, I was wondering what you think I should do next? What should my next move be? If you are hesistant to answer because of “culture differences”, don’t worry, just ignore that.
It’s not so much I’m afraid of rejection but would asking “would you like to be my girlfriend” so early be counterproductive? Then again, I think she really doesn’t take a hint.

Much appreciated!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m a big believer in actions speaking more loudly with words, so the fact that she’s agreeing to go out to dinner with you shows that she likes you and is interested in you! 😀 However, it might be too soon to ask her to be your girlfriend after only two dates. My advice is to continue dating her — what you’re doing is working. Get to know her — and let her get to know you during this dating process. You can also show your interest by giving her flowers, cards and little gifts, as well with affection. I think that this will move you a lot more clearly into boyfriend/girlfriend land, then asking for a commitment on a second date. 😉

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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Hi,
Thanks for the much needed advice! So are you suggesting its okay to ask on the second date? What about any suggested gifts?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Definitely ask her out again for a second date.

Some little gifts besides flowers, chocolates, and trinkets to remember you by could be personal or specific to the two of you. For instance, if you know she likes a particular author or music, a book or a CD might be a nice way to let her know you’re thinking of her. 😀

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