[MissSM]

I’ve been dating this guy for a week. Everything was going really well but kind of fast. We met on a thursday night at a bar (we knew each other before, like a month before the initial night). We hit it off that night. Talk all night from 9hpm trough 4ham the next morning, we learn alot on each other and we laugh. The next day he texted me and ask to see me on friday night. We saw each other from 10hpm trough 4ham again. Watch movies and talk again. On saturday he ask me on a date. We went to the restaurant and had fun. On sunday we went to the movies and hang out together till late in the am morning. On that night he open up to me and told me things that even his friends dont even know about him. On monday, tuesday and wednesday we texted and talked. On thursday he invited me to hang out with him and meet all of his friends. We had fun and all of his friends was happy that he had find me and everyone was loving me. He ask me what i wanted for christmas and told me I had to meet his parents on the weekend. He looked very happy about the situation. On friday he asked me on a double date with one of his guy friend and his friend girlfriend. The night was great and we ended sleeping at his friend house. On the next morning everything seemed ok between us. But on that night he told me we needed to have a talk on sunday. Sunday came and he told me he was not ready for a relationship and that he had to take a step back. That he needs time to deal with his problems and he have to figure out what he really wants in life. He reassure me that i wasn’t the reason, that he only needs time to figure sh*t out. What is he trying to say and what should i do? Should I forget him and move on or should I give him space and wait? Let me know your opinion. Thx!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s trying to tell you he’s not interested in dating you seriously. What you do depends on what you want. If you want a serious boyfriend, he’s not it. If you want him when he wants you, then he’ll probably be there. Probably.

When you meet someone in a whirlwind — and even though you met him a month ago, the dating process was a whirlwind! — things often end just as abruptly as they started. That’s a good rule of thumb to remember. My old school rule is to use the first three months of dating someone to decide if you want to continue dating them. If you do, use the next three months to decide if you want to be monogamous. This may seem slow and boring, but if you’re interested in something serious, then you should get serious about really taking the time to get to know each other…

I hope that helps!

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