[bocanada]

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years but during the past year I feel he doesn’t want to include me 100% in his life. Up to 3 times a week he went out with his friends (men and women) without telling or inviting me, even to activities where I know I could’ve go. We also have miscommunication issues, because he doesnt talk to me about his life goals and he avoids conversations about important issues in our life. Last week I broke up with him because he went to the beach, once again, with all of his friends and he didn’t even call me, and I’ve told him before it hurts me when he does that. I dont want to go out with him and his friends everytime they go out but it hurts me that not a single time in the past year he has invited me to his activities and that he refuses to do the activities I like to do most (like camping or going to the beach) or go out with my friends from time to time. I felt like we didn’t have a real relationship, even though I wanted to include him in my life he excluded me from his (he was having “three lives”: his social life, his family life and his relationship life, and a was only part of the last two) and avoided my social life. Besides that, we didnt have any other problems and he’s [b]never[/b] told me that he didn’t like something about me. He’s in a denial phase, he keeps telling me I wont let you leave me, I love you. [b]We love each other[/b], and he’s asking me for a second chance, but I dont know if it’s worth it, I’m [b]scared[/b] that once again he’ll exclude me from his social life and avoid talking about important issues of our relationship. What should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[bocanada]

He’s 26 and I’m 23.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like your boyfriend isn’t that serious about you. 😳 He’s purposefully excluding you from social situations, even though he knows it hurts your feelings. He couldn’t be much clearer about his intentions. When you say that he doesn’t talk to you about “important issues” in your relationship — it’s because he doesn’t want to.

It seems pretty clear that he wants you when he wants you and he wants his freedom, too. Although things were good for you in the past, they aren’t now. I know he wants you back, but it seems pretty clear that he wants you on his terms, which are “relationship-lite”.

If you’re looking for a serious relationship that may lead to marriage, this isn’t it. 😳

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