Hi April
I have a question regarding making a move on girl who has a boyfriend.
So 2 weeks ago we took in a new trainee at work. At first I didn’t thought much of her, but as we talked and the week went on she grew on me. On friday before leaving work a co-worker told me how obvious it was that I liked this trainee. This came as a surprise. I thought I hid it well. Co-worker also advised me to make a move. That made me think if I should do it. There are many things that makes this complicated.
First one is that she already has a boyfriend. Out of curiosity I checked her facebook page and that’s where I got that info. I don’t know how serious their relationship is but they seem to be together for 9 months or so.
Second one is that she doesn’t really live in the same town as me. She lives about 60 km away. But I heard her talk about her living situation during this training period and during a workdays she stays in the same town. Probably for weekends she goes away. I don’t know here her boyfriend lives.
Third one is that I think about if she rejects me when I try to ask her out or even if she doesn’t do it right away, but some time after that. This would make our workplace situation uncomfortable.
Positive thing is that there are small clues that she might like me too, but I might have just read her wrong. The clues that I have seen is that she smiles almost every time she looks a me (not a full blown smile but small one, one might say this shy smile), then I have kinda catched her looking at me often (at least there has been few times more than usual when i look at her then she already was looking at me), when our eyes meet she doesn’t look away (I have been the one to look away first), once when we were alone and were crossing the road she suddenly came really close to me for a little time (It looked like she had no reason to do it, other than just wanting to be closer to me, but i might just be thinking it to be more than it is).
Now she has been away for a week and and starting this new week she will be coming back and stay for about 7 weeks.
One thing that makes this harder just for me is that even if at first we work and she breaks up with her boyfriend to be with me but then sometime we break up for whatever reason and she regrets breaking up her current relationship. This would make me feel guilty. I know that this is very far fetched thought and it might not happen. I don’t even know her really yet. But this is the way I am. I don’t like hurting people, more so the people I care a about.
I think it it not smart to wait for long, because she will be here only for a limited time.
What should I do? I would like to hear your opinion on this situation.
