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I met this guy and we really hit it off… His family invited me to thanksgiving dinner we would hang out for hours, he picked up at like 12:30 am when I came to hang out with him and my car broke down he got on his friend’s motorcycle and came to get me in the freezing cold and stayed with me until my dad got there then had like no sleep the next day. He told me I was not like every other girl that there was something different about me. He said he knew his heart I liked him and that I am good people. He is such a sweet person. I told him I felt like were just gonna be FWB and he said it kind of hurt his feelings and pissed him off a little cause that isnt what he wanted. He told me he feels like I only talk to him “when I am horny and want to have sex and asked if I just wanted him to come over for a “booty call.” Everytime I would say I didnt think we should talk he would ask why. When I accused him of playing games and said I thought he was a player he said “I’m not a player or whatever they call it nowadays.” He told me he knows he has done people wrong in the past but he doesn’t like hurting people and that he has a good heart. We ended up fooling around and having sex the first week we was hanging out and I thought I was pregnant and I told him. I kept telling him he could leave at any time or we could “lie” and say the baby wasnt his that he didnt know I was pregnant. He said hell no I definitely aint gonna do that if you are then “f**k it we will just have to deal with it.” I told him there was always the Plan B pill and explained it then I said I don’t beleive in abortion he said yeah don’t do that hell no. He told me after we hooked up he felt bad as well like we had moved to fast and told me if we spent the weekend together he just wanted to hang out and have a good time with me that we werent going to have sex. I pushed the subject and kept saying well what the hell are we going to do if you come over. We don’t have a car right now (mine was in the shop he is saving up for a new truck and his friends truck he has been using is a piece of crap apartently) so what is there to do. He asked me if I was like a sex addict or something then later He said we need to go out and do something… We was doing really good… until yesterday when my dad made me think he stole from me and I freaked out.. We talked up until about 3:30 or 4:00 yesterday then i found that and I started blowing up his phone and accusing him of stealing when I really had no proof he did… neither did my dad other than what people said they seen. The people who said he stole it were going to be working on my car and alot of people say they don’t like fooling with him because of how he does people or something. There was no proof to back up their claims but yet I kept accusing him so then I felt bad and apologized and told him I was here from him no matter what if stole it just tell me. I received a message from one of the phone’s he uses sometimes and it said “Sorry Chessie is with Nathan but I will give him the message” so I tried again to ask about the stealing and they did not respond. I texted him this morning and told him I was coming over between 12:00 and 3:00pm and did not get a response. I called him and someone answered the phone I heard them doing something and then it said call ended I texted him… still no response so I freaked out but left him alone. I didnt get my car back until about 6:30 pm today and we havent seen each other since Tuesday night early Wednesday morning… so I decided not to go up there to his house. I ended up calling him from restricted and he didnt answer I texted him and apologized for accusing him and told I know he didnt do it still no response. He has been done wrong by every girl hes been with lately he has been in and out of trouble and has been abandoned alot when he got in trouble he got pulled over the other day and i called him back after a cop called me asking about my wallet and he was upset i told him to look on the brightside at least i called back to check on him and too make sure he was okay and he said “yeah most people would have been like oh f**k you” he told me he was afraid i was going to walk away when he had to go to a halfway for three months due to getting into some trouble not long ago… he asked me if i was going to come see him if he got locked up and i when i asked what he said he never mind im not gonna ask you that… his last girlfriend ran him over with a car called the cops on him always wanted to drink and stay drunk and his girlfriend before that ended up messing with a friend of his while he was dating her… so he has never been done right in a relationship really not in his life his dad was an alcholic his mom is in an abusive relationship. He basically was raised partying with his older brothers and their friends at a very young age.. I don’t know what to do it has been about 24 hours since I have heard from him he has my wallet and he was going to give it back yesterday but I couldn’t make it up there. My question is should I give him his space I haven’t seen him since Tuesday and I really think I made him mad by accusing him of stealing for no reason/without evidence since he has been in trouble for stealing as a young adult and has stopped doing that i think it bothered him. So as i was saying should I give him his space for a few days and then go see him and talk to him or I should go see him tomorrow and show him that I am not like every other girl/ person he has been around. That i am NOT going to walk away I am not going to give up and I am going to do him wrong when things get tough. I feel as though he needs someone in his life who can help him see not all people are bad not all people lie some people truly care. I just dont know what to do. I don’t want to give up because I think we could be great for each other but I don’t want to make him mad by pushing myself on him. He kept saying he wanted to see me. He told me i could “ask his dad” all he did on thanksgiving was talk about needing to find a way to come see me. I heard his dad say yesterday is she coming over he said i didnt have a ride and i think his dad said well why dont you go get her… then i think i heard him ask if i was staying the night I am almost 95 percent sure this guy invited me to his brothers wedding for next saturday.. I just dont feel like giving up is a good idea but I don’t want to annoy him because then he will think im crazy or a stalker.. PLEASE HELP!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, having sex without birth control is not a good idea. You need to be more responsible for yourself, sexually. 😕

Second, it was wrong for you to accuse him of stealing based on rumors. Now, it’s time for you to back off. If he wants to see you, he’ll contact you. You’ve “blown up his phone” and tried to contact him more than enough. You should stop doing that.

Third, I’m not sure how old either one of you is, but it sounds like this guy has a history of trouble at a very young age, and you feel sorry for him and want to take care of him, but that’s not what he needs — and it’s not what you need. It’s a much better idea to date men who are ready for a relationship because they have the rest of their lives in order. 😉

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