[MsHouston]

I have had an on again off again relationship for five years. He tells me that he loves me but we rarley ever see each other for he works out of town for months at a time and then we lives two hours apart. I don’t see it going anywhere though I am in love with him. What should I do? Should I tell him I am going to start dating other people or should I just break it off? I honestly do want to be in a relationship with him but from his actions I see if doesn’t though he says he loves me.

[Ask April Masini]

What you should do depends on what you want. If you want a relationship that is going to go somewhere, like marriage or monogamy and living together, I think you’re pretty clear that this guy isn’t going to give you that. Since you are in love with him, I don’t see how you can move on without breaking up. Making it a clean break will hurt a lot in the beginning, but will allow you to heal and move on a lot more easily than trying to date other people while you’re still seeing him and in love with him.

Most women have trouble being in love with more than one man. So if you want a monogamous relationship your best bet is to break up and move on. You’ll have a better shot at true love if you’re truly available.

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