[insomni97]

Me and my gf split at the end of january, as i said some nasty things about her ability at work etc (i was an idiot) we lived together and i moved out about 6 weeks ago. We’ve met up a few times to see how things go, but everytime it goes well i start asking about getting back together, to which her reply is ‘i cant give you what you want right now’ she’s said she still loves me and i still love her. She’s forgiven me for what i said but hasn’t forgot. She just wants to hang out and see how things go over time. Should i wait around and hope that things sort themselves out or should i just try and move on? she’s all i think about and the chemistry is still there i believe, even the way we talk to each other, like have our own little language etc. I don’t know what to do and am scared of waiting around, then her turning around and saying to just keep friends because it’ll destroy me.

She’s told me i need to sort my head out as i keep changing my mind from doing things her way and then wanting to just leave it to avoid getting hurt. I suffer from mood swings so i’ve been back to the doctors and gone back on my anxiety meds which is a good thing. Need advice!!

Thanks for reading!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Since you acknowledge a clinical mood swing disorder, you have to choose someone who is willing to be with you in spite of this issue. You have a compatibility challenge for the long run, and while it’s not insurmountable, you have to be careful in choosing well.

Your ex-girlfriend does not sound like someone who wants to tolerate your condition. Since you’re aware of your own feelings and will be devastated if she eventually tells you she’s not interested again, my advice to you is very clear: This is not your Ms. Right. While she may have wonderful qualities and you have your “own special language” those are not enough to sustain a relationship with you. You need someone who is more understanding of your situation and less sensitive to your mood swings. Keep looking!

I hope that helps, and that you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter! 😀

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