[Anonymous]

hi!.. so i was on here back in feb/march i think about a bad breakup… trying to get out of a bad relationship. well i followed your advice and wanted to firstly, thank you for that advice. but now i need more
Let me give you a bit of history.. (i’m 20, female, in college on summer break right now)… right after i broke up with my ex, actually this new guy and i were kind of talking before me and my now ex broke up. i was broken up with my ex for about 2 weeks and i was hanging out with this new guy and we got kinda drunk and ended up hooking up. since then we’ve had sex several more times. i’ve been single for 9 weeks now i believe and been talking to and hanging out with this new guy for all of those 9 weeks. and i know, i know i should have DEF waited more than 2 weeks before doing anything. but it happened and.. oh well i guess. but now i’m not really sure what to do.. i do like him (more than i intended to). but since i just got out of a 4.5 year relationship i decided i should be single for a while (aiming for about 6 months). so we briefly talked about what we were doing and basically all i got was that neither of us want anything serious right now. he said it was cause hes been burned too many times.. so i dont know. i just know he matches like everything i want in a guy. hes super sweet and nice, hes going somewhere with his life, hes mechanically inclined, he loves animals, etc. he’s cooked me dinner. we text everyday. we’ve hung out just about once a week even though i live an hour from school and he has an apartment at school. but he never tells me how he feels about me, or if he even really likes me, or ever compliments me.
but yet i know i shouldn’t jump into anything, even if he was willing. so… what do i do? should i talk to him about how i feel. should i wait a little longer, till the summer is over. do i keep doing what i’m doing?
help?!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m glad I was able to help you with the last problem you posted here! 😀 I hope I can do as well this time.

First of all, understand that if he doesn’t act like your boyfriend, you can’t MAKE him act like your boyfriend, and regardless of the reason he gives you for not wanting to be exclusive, the bottom line is that he’s not interested in anything more than a casual relationship at best. This is a problem because you’re falling for him and you want more.

My first piece of advice is that you should get my book, Think & Date Like A Man, for several reasons, first of which, you’re back in the dating world after almost five years out of it. This book will help you get your sea legs back! You can purchase and download it here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. Second reason you should purchase and read this book is because it will help you understand HOW TO GET THE GUY!! And it sure sounds like you need a refresher course! 😆

Throwing yourself at him — whether it’s sexually, or telling him your feelings for him after he’s said he doesn’t want to date you exclusively — are big mistakes. Men want to chase women, and you’re not giving him anything to chase! Unfortunately, you’re seeing the downside of your behavior. Get the book, read it, and let me know if it helps.

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