I’m sorry you’re so hurt, but you did the right thing. Let me help clarify your confusion. If after 2 years of dating you kept having the same fights and the same problems, and you both decided it would be better to split up, you were right. Two years is enough time to know if your relationship is heading in the right direction. Yours wasn’t, and you couldn’t fix it. So don’t beat yourself up about the break up. It was probably overdue.
Your ex-boyfriend was wrong to call you after he went on a date with someone else, post-break up. And you weren’t wrong to get upset with him. He was breaking the “break up rules”. If you’re broken up, act broken up!
Unfortunately, that phone call confused you because he rubbed your face in the fact that he was dating immediately after you broke up. The wound from the break up was raw, and it was a cruel thing to do — even if he was saying he wanted you back. Actions speak louder than words. I’m not so sure he wasn’t really intending to rub your face in the fact that he was out on a date with someone other than you.
The pain of the break up with or without your ex-boyfriend’s faux pas, hurts. And that’s what you’re feeling. Two years is a long time to be with someone and then to suddenly have broken up. Expect some time to heal. Be kind to yourself. Surround yourself with people who are comforting and upbeat. You want only positive people right now!
Take care of yourself, too. Eat well, sleep well, exercise, go out with friends, and let yourself be sad about the loss of the relationship, but don’t panic or wallow. You’re going to be ready to get back out there and find someone who loves and appreciates you, with whom you don’t fight the way you did with the ex. You did the right thing. You’re in the right place at the right time, now.
You’re going to have lots of wonderful men to choose from when you’re ready to start dating again.
