Move on with the new guy. Your ex is your past. Let him go — completely for now.
Your ex has made it very clear that he doesn’t want a relationship. The two of you have both held on to each other by remaining “friends” and sleeping with each other on occasion. While that numbs the pain of a break up, it makes moving on with someone else difficult. That’s what you’re experiencing. In addition to which, your ex doesn’t want you to move on because he wants you the way he’s been having you lately — as a friend and bed partner, without any commitment. He knows that he will lose you completely to this new guy if you move on, but he’s not going to step up to the plate and tell you he wants you himself, so he’s going to tease you with “I love you” that’s phony baloney to try and keep you from finding happiness with another man. So see things for what they are: You’ve got a great guy who wants you, and a guy from your past who doesn’t want you, but tries to make it so you can’t move on to another guy.
Now it’s time for [b][i]you[/i][/b] to step it up, and make things right. That break up that should have happened a long time ago, needs to happen now. No more ex boyfriend in your life except for rare occasions when you both happen to be invited to the same event. If you don’t do this, you’re going to jeopardize your new relationship — and any future relationship where your ex is in the background.
It’s normal to have feelings of sentiment and even longing for an old ex, but just because you have them doesn’t mean you act on them. Maturity means not acting on every impulse or emotion you have. Sometimes, you just have to let thoughts be. How you behave and live your life is what defines it.
There’s a great, kind of old movie, called Broadcast News where a woman is love with a co-worker, and another man in her life will do anything to sabotage that relationship. You can see in the movie how she’s torn between being loyal to the new boyfriend or the old friend. While the old friend isn’t an ex, he is in love with her, can’t have her, and will make sure no one else does, either. Don’t be her!
Put all your effort and energy into the man who wants all of you and will give you all of himself in exchange. You deserve that! 🙂
