I met a guy named Greg (he is 30, I am 29)) 4 years ago at university and started dating him last year. At first things were pretty good. Then he lost his job in September last year, and everything changed, he became extremely withdrawn and depressed. He didn’t tell me that he had lost his job until 2 months later, and during this time I had no idea why he had changed. It was so depressing and isolating. He just pushed me away and I had no idea why, until he finally told me. I loved him a lot and wanted to try and stick out this difficult time.
It was a challenge for me. I broke up with around Christmas last year because I felt so neglected. I knew it wasn’t his fault but I had never in my life had such a hard time in a relationship. The worst thing was, this is a man that I truly fell in love with. He chased me and told me he wanted me back, and I gave in, hoping things would improve.
After that he still remained unemployed, but was graduating with his PhD this May. During the last few months it was so difficult. He was depressed because he wasn’t working and had to borrow money from people. We would see each other every week or every 2 weeks, we would have sex and cuddle for a few hours and go back to our lives. We have a great sex life,very passionate, and I learned how to communicate with him without stressing him out. I was forced to work on myself and improve my attitude just to deal with him and my own life. I also am in that PhD program, so I had to focus on my classes and keep a positive attitude.
So I would say, during my time with him, I was forced to evolve emotionally and spiritually. Which I’m grateful for. And I would say, it was good for us to see each others strength. I saw him trying to stay positive and trying his best to keep what we have going. He saw me being calmer, less neurotic, and more emotionally balanced.
However, it’s going on a year now, and I feel an urge to give up on this relationship. I feel that I’ve done my best and I can’t do anymore. Frankly, I’m tired. I want to be taken on dates, trips, and outings, and he is not in the place to do that for me. He said when he found a job the first thing we would do is go to the zoo, a place I enjoy visiting. I would love for us to go, but I don’t feel like waiting around.
What’s more is that my ex has been trying to get back with me for several months. I actually let him take me out the other day and had a great time. I think I want the freedom to see other people. I’m thinking of telling Greg that I want to take a break from him. That I need space to live my life without thinking about him.
I believe in the Law of Attraction, so I know that there is reason that we were attracted into each others lives, but I don’t understand why I would attract such a challenging situation.
I don’t necessarily want to get back with my ex or even get into another relationship right now. But I feel like I just want a break from Greg. It’s hard to be in a period of uncertainty for so long. With him I have no idea if we will last. He is looking for work everywhere including other cities in our state. Maybe a break would just be the best option right now.
What do you think?
Thanks,
Adele
