[Bernemac201]

So I think I know what I need to do with this situation BUT I just need to hear someone who I feel is an “expert” give me there opinion.. so let me give u some background. James and I started dating junior year of high school and decided freshman year of college to end it over the years after that we stayed in each other lives as friends and actually became best friends shared secrets etc. over the years we both dated other ppl I actually had a child and was engaged but that didn’t work out and wee broke up in October 2010. James and i started going on dates in June of 2011 nothing seriously just dinner etc since then we are still dating. We both agree we are not ready for marriage at all but we both don’t agree about the relationship . i would like now to move on from” dating” to boyfriend and girlfriend. He would like to to keep things how they are he says that the only difference between it is a title but everything we do our bounders when we go out etc .. how much time we spend his friends etc stay the same. he told me he loved me and pretty much tells everyone how I’m his best friend etc.. i just don’t get why he wont just make me his girlfriend. we talked about it on several occasions and i don’t have a real reason besides it would make me feel more secure. i feel like except for the fact of having the title we have a great relationship. my question is how long do i wait or am i right for feeling like i should move on and cut him off cold turkey! I am willing to move on but i know with our history we have something spacial so do i really wanna throw that away?? help because i don’t wanna lose someone spacial but i don’t wanna keep waiting till he is ready what if he is never ready. he a great guy and we have a great bond and he acepts my child and we have similar goals etc its just odd to me that we cant agree on this. 🙁

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He doesn’t want the responsibility that comes with a monogamous relationship and dating a single mother. He wants his freedom. He wants an out at all times. And he wants a friends with benefits relationship with you. In other words, he wants what’s good for him. Not you.

If you want more, then you need to move on. I think you’re confusing a special relationship with a history. If he really wanted you, he’d make you his. He doesn’t. I don’t mean to be cold, but you’re bending the truth so it’s more palatable to yourself, but deep down you know what’s going on.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[Bernemac201]

Thanks ur spot on . It will be hard but it’s def whats best.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You know what to do. 😀 You’re going to be much better off in the long run if you find someone who wants the same thing you do.

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