It’s really great that you’re getting a clear picture of who this guy is. Now, the trickier part! 😆 What is it that [b]you[/b] really need in a man?
But more importantly, why do you say that [i]you have no feelings for this man,[/i] but you continue to include him in your life and that of your children? 😯
If you don’t want to be with him, then don’t. You’re not a victim. You know how to get rid of someone if they’re wasting your time — and you’re wasting theirs.
Since you have children, I’m going to guess that you”re divorced, so take some time and decide why your marriage didn’t work for you and what you learned from that relationship’s failure. A failed marriage can be devastating, but like any rejection or relationship failure, it can be a huge gift if you use it to understand where YOU went wrong and what YOU can do differently in choosing someone for yourself next time around.
Since you didn’t tell me specifics, I’m not sure when you say “he doesn’t take the truth easily” what you mean. ❓ Is [i]he[/i] in denial? Or are [i]you[/i] too harsh with him? What is it about his business that you feel is mishandled — and could you live with a boundary where he maybe mishandles his business, but still makes a living? I mean, would it be fair to say that someone else may think you mishandle things, but from you’re point of view, you have reasons for behaving the way you do? Is there a reason he has no boundaries with his sisters, or do you think you may be feeling jealous? Again — without specifics, it’s hard for me to advise as well as I might with them.
All in all, it sounds like he’s not the problem — you’re very clear on who he is, but the problem is really what YOU want in your life and being consistent with that desire.
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