I’m engaged and my fiance is flaking on me, or it seems that way. We have been engaged since April. The behavior started about 7wks ago. It’s been 4 days since we have talked on the phone (not seen him too), all he will do is text periodically throughout the day (not even that much either). He sure wants me on the weekends when it’s “play time” but during the week I am some sort of friend and am basically ignored?? He claims that he is not sure he can give up his “freedom” to be settled down and married. The super sad thing is for the first 8 wks of our relationship (engagement) he could not get enough of me. Calling, texting, seeing me, now I seem to get in the way. He has thoughts of just saying “the hell with the relationship” I’ll just be alone. Then he goes back to “ohh I love you so much, you make me sooo happy”. Honestly it’s getting old and has been going on since the beginning of June. I love him to death and he claims to love me as well, but obviously there is a imbalance here.
I don’t want to give up and throw it away because I finally found someone I can respect and we get along really really well. But on the flip side I am starting to loose my respect for him because he cannot make up his mind. Before he was in and ALL GO, now he’s changed and is not sure. WTF?? I say?? The Katy Perry song ” hot and cold” replays in my mind a lot when I think of him. I don’t know what to do with my situation. Give him a chance to get his crap together in hopes he will be “on board” or just end it and be crushed?? The ending it sounds terrible to think that way because I have made a commitment in my heart and mind to this person. Of course I am sad and try to just press on. When I talk to him, he says that he knows we will be married and that his thoughts of his “freedom” are fewer than before. Like he is getting better. Is this cold feet or something?? I know I have been VERY patient and supportive through his FLAKE stage, I am not sure how much longer I can take it though without me starting to not care like him just to be able to to deal with the hurt and pain.. Please help me someone out there. I am not sure I can walk away from him, that is the difficult thing.
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