[Tanyanotek]

I met him first during freshman year, I just moved into school so i was new, he was new aswell, on the very first day he confidently spoke to me, and we shared numbers along with him and another guy. After a while, our relationship bonded, and we made it official that we are like brothers and sisters. Whenever we walk by each other in the hallway we would playfully smack each other as we walk by as our traditional greeting. And when we’re together we would playfully make faces/bully towards each other as a sign of how close we are as brothers and sisters, and every time in the end I always walk off with a silly grin on my face. However, the great thing about him is that when things are serious, he becomes sensible, and so do i. When we are in need of help, we would help one another. After school, whenever we text, we chat normally just like how brothers and sisters would do, and we always end with the “I love you sis/bro”. However, this year, he is really nice to me (well he always was but what I ment was, this year we barely playfully bully each other. He still called me sister and I still called him brother. Our texts are still the same. I have lots of guy friends and he has lots of girl friends. He had two girlfriends through the year, and they all ended up breaking up with him. He cried and told me about everything. I was in a relationship with a guy where we are more than friend but not officially in a relationship, and he ended up “actually” dating with one of my closest girlfriends when I was too busy to sit with them during lunch. I was heartbroken but I recovered by now. However, lately I had been having a slight spark of crush on my friend who I considered a brother every once in a while, but I would usually shrug them off. When my friend has a girlfriend, I would congratulate him, but very deep down inside I felt abandoned. My friend even told me I like my friend in more than just a brotherly sister way. I am so confused with myself. I have to admit that i have a very SLIGHT crush on him unintentionally, yet at the same time, I truly love him like a brother (yes I am using the word love on purpose, I know it’s a big word). i do not want to ruin our tight sibling relationship thing. Should I just shrug this all out and think of it as just an accident? Or what other thing else should I do that will not ruin or make our current relationship awkward, 🙁

I used to be in a relationship with this guy , and he was super smart, athletic, and funny. He also seem to really like me for me, because no matter how badly or awkwardly I make a mistake, he would just always laugh and give me a hug. The first few weeks were amazing, I really liked him and he really liked me. However, after a while, I’ve been feeling as though things were seriously awkward between the both of us. But he felt fine though, it was just me. I felt as though he was a really awkward person and so am I. I started trying to avoid him in the hallways, however, if I meet him directly I still talk to him very nicely. I’ve been talking to him less. However, he still liked me for me and still bought me stuff and all that. I felt very mean. And after 3 months, I ended up telling him nicely that I don’t think this would work, and we remained friends.This is not the first time, this had also happened to my second boyfriend (well not officially in a relationship, but we were more than friends)….I would feel amazing being in a relationship with someone I like, and then it would always end up being very awkward between us, and then kaboom, our relationship would just end like that. Do you think it is normal because he was just not the right one for me, or is it because I was being very pessimistic?? :/ And if this keeps on happen, does this mean I would never find myself a great last-longing relationship like how many people happily does? Is there a way to fix this? All I wanted is just someone I know that I could enjoy/share secrets/ and joke around with

[April Masini, your AskApril]

These guys are not your siblings, so you should stop pretending they are and treating them like they are. 😕 Stop calling them your brothers. In addition, I always counsel people that men and women can’t be friends because one person always feels differently than the other and this creates confusion, frustration and heartache. If you admit to yourself that these guys are potential dates and boyfriends, you’ll be a lot less confused and things will be less awkward. 😉

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