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Ok here goes, I have two relationship problem on my mind that has been bothering me for quite sometime. And i finally found this forum where i can ask and have answers 🙂

There is this close friend of mine who is a girl lets call her A, i have known her for about 5 years now. She was my best friend’s girlfriend and i got to know her through him. We were very close even after they broke up, we would text each other and IM. And then there was B who was a good friend of A and i knew her through A. She was the most gorgeous girl i have ever seen. And i had wanted to woo her until she told me she didn’t want to date at all and A knows about this. At some point in the 5 years i known A, she got angry a few times thinking i was using her to get closed to B, hence i didn’t really wanna hurt A’s feeling so i didn’t talked about woo-ing her anymore.

A year later B was with a boy and i thought well she was finally ready and waited for her to break up before going in and woo-ing her. But then my shyness caught up and i didn’t really asked her up till now.

Well just a few days ago, i was texting A when suddenly the topic of B having no boyfriend came up. A tried to probe if i still liked B and i kept avoiding the question because i still like B after all this years. After much probing, A decided that i still liked her and told me to go for it. That was until the next day, when all my messages to A was replied with very cold messages with no “feelings” in it. It was like she was answering for the sake of answering and that got me worried.

I think i am thinking too much into it but i am unsure of A likes me or anything. After her break up with my best friend, she never got into another relationship. I do not deny that i do have a feelings for A because she is the one who knows me very well. But on the other hand, B was my dream girl.

I am also unsure now how to woo B as i have never done this before.

And if i do woo B and A likes me, how would i go about not hurting A’s feeling.

Sorry for the lengthly posting but i hope to pour this out to someone and asked for advice.

[Ask April Masini]

You’re definitely over-analyzing. The only surefire way you can know if a woman will go out with you is if you ask her and get a response!

I know you’re nervous about asking her out, so my advice is to buy my book for $15.95, online. It’s called Date Out Of Your League, and it’s written for men! It will give you every tip and piece of advice you need to know when and how to ask a woman out — and every detail you can imagine (and some you can’t!) in between. You’ll probably love the chapter on body language which tells you how to decipher the way she moves so you can know what she’s truly thinking about you.

Here’s the link for the book:
[url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]

Once you pay for the book, it downloads immediately, so you can actually start reading tonight! It’s a quick read, and you sound like you will benefit from reading a chapter a night.

So, get the book, and it will help you figure out how to get a woman like “B”. In the meantime, you’re going to have to stop worrying about other people’s feelings — especially your friend A. Who you date is none of her business — unless, of course, it’s her! If you’re going to try and take care of both women, you’re going to fail miserably. So figure out what you want, and go for it. If you want to ask out B, then do it, but understand that it’s none of A’s business.

It’s possible for men and women to be friends, but it’s not easy, and you’ve stumbled into a perfect example of why it’s so tough. If A was really your friend, she wouldn’t be so controlling of who you date. She doesn’t have your best interests at heart. She’s just interested in controlling social situations. So if you choose to go along with her drama, you’re going to spend most of your time gossiping and less of your time actually living your own life!

So quit talking to A about your love life. Put up a clear boundary with her. And read my book, and go about pursuing B — and other women who might be right for you!

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