[Jaysha]

I am currently a high school senior, and have honestly never been in a serious relationship of any sort.

But recently, there is this guy that I am interested in. He broke up with his serious girlfriend of three years just two months ago. I am pretty sure he was dumped, as she started seeing some college guy about a week later.

I kind of had a thing for him around that time, but I did not plan on acting on it. We went to parties together and he caught me by complete surprise by obviously flirting with me. Then about 2 weeks ago we started texting all the time and flirting a lot, so about 10 days ago he asked me out, and we went to dinner and kissed and had a great time.

Then last week he was freaking out about getting into college, and seemed really insecure about it. But over the last weekend, he got into a great school, and called me about it, and I was perfectly nice. We talked a bit that night…
Then we just sort of…stopped.

We are on break from school right now, and so he just left town today. He didn’t even tell me about it, and has not even so much as texted me in the last three days since he was accepted into college. I texted him today asking when he was leaving, and he told me he was already gone, and struck up a very short, casual conversation, but that is about it.

I have been obsessively over analyzing the whole situation, how he told me he liked me like every night and then at school, barely talked to me in front of his ex. I am starting to feel like I was only attractive to him when he was completely insecure about his ex and the whole college situation, because right when he was accepted, everything kind of changed.

Am I being ridiculous? Or is this really what is happening?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re not being ridiculous, but you may be over thinking it. In fact, I know it’s hard to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, but if you try, what you might find is that a huge college admissions stress has just been lifted from this guy’s life, and he’s on vacation now with his family. He had one great date with you, but that doesn’t mean (ever) that there’s going to be a second date. The reason could be that he’s distracted with college stuff, family obligations, his being out of town, and not being sure he wants to get involved in another relationship, in spite of a nice date with you, since he’s probably going to be leaving town for college in eight months.

I would call you “just a confidence booster”, but I also wouldn’t put too much effort into fantasizing a future with this guy. My advice is to relax and sit back. Enjoy your holiday. If he comes back in January, from his family vacation, and wants to see you again, then you get to go on another date with him if you’d like, and you can talk about his college plans and see if you think there’s a future with him based on how the date goes.

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go for you, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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