[Anonymous]

Here’s the story (sorry if it’s long and sorry for my bad English)……

ok I’ve been talking to this girl who I met on facebook.she’s cute,nice and kind.at first the relationship was more like friendship but then it became much stronger.I saw her once about 3 weeks ago.
when i saw her i told her that i want this to go further(I meant that i want us to be gf and bf)she said that we are just good friends .I don’t want us to be gf and bf.later she said that she doesn’t want to get attached cause she wants to marry someday and i don’t..lately the relationship has become stronger and we tease each other a lot when we chat.I flirt with her a lot..we talk about kissing each and things like that until today when things got more serious and we started talking about sexual stuff in our texts.like phone sex but instead of talking we were texting.anyways after that i felt weird.I felt that it’s more like friends with benefits.she doesn’t flirt with me much.I felt like it’s just sex.she doesn’t say she likes me and when she does she says that she likes me but not in the love kind of way.
after that i told her that we should talk about this?where is this relationship going?are wee fooling ourselves?she said i don’t know,we can continue like friends or break up with each other.
I’m 23 and she is my first girlfriend!she had never had a bf either.
i think before becoming friends we were just tired of being lonely and just wanted to find someone to have fun with and flirt.i don’t know.
we have to chat everyday…we have to talk or we will miss each other.things are just weird.
BTW we live in different cities.two hours distance
I think it’s considered long distance relationship
if she broke up with me,should i stay friends with her?
what should I do?I’m confused.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Since you’re 23 and you’ve never had a girlfriend, here are some basic tips: First of all, you should ask her out on a date, so you can start building some romantic time together. Relationships are built on shared experiences — not conversations. Once you start dating, you can decide whether or not you’re compatible — based on the experience of dating. You’ll learn a lot more about her in six dates than you will in six conversations. If you are compatible, then you’ve got the basis for a relationship in those six dates. If you’re not, then you’ll know that the relationship isn’t going anywhere, and to move on. And if you do decide that the relationship isn’t going anywhere, then it’s not a good idea to remain friends because you’ll just be a distraction to each other that keeps you from moving on and finding a real relationship. 😉

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