[Unanimous]

Okay so before my girlfriend and I started dating she used to regularly hookup with this guy at parties when they were both drunk and even slept with him once…she told me this and while it made me uncomfortable she told me they were just friends and that it didn’t mean anything and since she didn’t know me at the time I mean I obviously can’t be mad at her for it…about 6 months into our relationship she asked me to text her mom for her since she was driving and when I opened her messages I saw that she had texted the guy a very flirty happy birthday text, when I saw this I got very angry told her to pull the car over and walked home. Later that night we talked about it and she said they were friends and she didn’t mean anything by it and that I didnt understand the friendship they have. Since then I’ve always felt very uncomfortable about this guy and my girlfriends “friendship”. So about 5 months after that things were just kinda off between us, we were constantly fighting over small things and we weren’t getting along very well, so I broke up with her…about a day after I broke up with her I realized I made a mistake and I wrote her a 3 page letter about how I messed up and how I was sorry and so I took it to her and we talked and from what I was able to gather it went very well….well later that night we were both at a party and I was thinking that maybe we’d get back together that night, but instead I see her making out with the guy she said she was “just Friends with” the guy “I had nothing to worry about” and since we were broken up when this happened I can’t really be mad I guess but I definitely felt a sense of betrayal almost that not even 48 hours we ended our year long relationship she was hooking up with the ONE guy she told me not to worry about…so anyway we still ended up getting back together about a week after this and since then (it’s been about 2 months) I have not been able to get that image out of my mind and I don’t know what to do

[AskApril Masini]

Men and women can’t be friends — and if anyone tells you they can, you need to set yourself straight. I think the problem started when you second guessed yourself and tried to accept her telling you that a guy she used to make out with and slept with was just a friend. He wasn’t, and isn’t. You have good instincts — use them more often! 😉 Bottom line is that he’s competition. Instead of getting angry at her, accept that fact — and that you let her go on a break, which is when she got together with him, so that’s not cheating — and work to make her only want you and not him. 😉

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go and if you have any more questions.

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