[spifffymegan]

I’ve been talking to a guy for several months now, and a couple of weeks ago he told me he didn’t know if he wanted to be with me and didn’t know if he cared anymore. Which I think he might of said because he was just upset. He told me he was just confused though I had asked “So we’re done?” And he says he never said that.

So we finally talked about it a little more today and this is our conversation.

Me – “So we’re fine?”
Him – “Umm.”
Me – “If you don’t see yourself being with me just tell me now.”
Him – “What”
Me – You know what. If you can’t see yourself being with me, just tell me now. I just want to know what’s going on.

Him – “Nothing is going on.”
Me – “So nothings going on between us..”
Him – “I didn’t even say that?!”
Me – “So are we still talking then?”
Him – “What changed”
Me – “What does that mean?”
Him – “You act like something changed. Relax.”

The day before this, he told me he wasn’t fully over his ex.. but he would never get back with her..

I don’t even know.. What do you get from this??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

From this conversation and your post, what I get is that you’re wasting your time with a guy who isn’t interested in you. 😕 When you said you’ve been “talking” to a guy for a few months, I’m not sure if you mean online or in person, but either way, if he hasn’t asked you out on a real life date by now, you should stop spending any more time with him.

In addition, if he said he’s not interested in you any more, take him seriously and move on. Don’t try and make him take it back. The conversation you transcribed really shows a guy who’s apathetic about you at best, and trying to shake you at worst. You’re desperately trying to hold onto something that isn’t there.

I’m sorry, but this conversation is such clear evidence that you’re in a no win, go nowhere situation. You seem to really want a relationship, so find a guy who wants to be with you!

I hope that helps.

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