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    syracuse
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    So my girlfriend broke up with me recently and I still can’t really figure out what happened. Everything was fine when we were together and we never got into one argument or disagreement. When we first started dating, we were seeing each other every day because of school, but after school got out, we didn’t see each other as much (maybe three days a week) because she got a second job to help pay for school. I was perfectly fine with not seeing her as much because I understood that she needed to do this. We would still talk to each other everyday quite a bit and every thing seemed fine, until the day before she broke up with me. She asked me where I thought our relationship was going and I said that I thought it would continue because things had been going good. She then said that she was confused and needed to talk about it. The next day she broke up with me and said God doesn’t want her to be in a relationship at that time and that it had nothing to do with me, but with our relationship. Her parents and family weren’t happy with her decision, but they understood. Since then, we’ve talked a few times and she said she doesn’t want to talk as much as we talked before saying that it will help both of us not to talk that much, but she still wants to be friends. And it just seems like I am more sad than she is. Basically, I am trying to figure out what actually happened and if this is just completely over now with no chance of her possibly changing her mind?

    Thank you very much for your help.

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    It sounds like she’s having a personal issue that has nothing to do with you and that’s why she broke up with you. It’s hard to not understand what’s going on in her head and to not comprehend the reason for her breaking up with you, but if you spend too much time focusing on her, you’re going to lose sight of the big picture. For WHATEVER reason — whether she’s having a religious change in her life or a spiritual change, or she just stopped liking you so much and used religion as an excuse — the one thing you actually DO know is that she did break up with you. So take what you DO know and use that to start to feel better.

    Most relationships end, and when you do finally find someone with whom you want a long term or life long relationship, it’s even more special because you know what it’s like to have loved and lost. Break ups and rejection hurt, but as you see the bigger picture, you’ll come to understand that they are also a gift so that you CAN move on and let go of a person who isn’t right for you and can’t return your love — and get out there and find someone who CAN!! 😀

    Stay healthy and take care of yourself physically, mentally and socially and start looking around for other people to include in your life now, one of whom just may be Ms. Right.

    I hope that helps.

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