[riznun]

I have been seeing a girl for the last month. We get along great and I am extremely attracted to her. What I mean by that is when I see her, my heart melts. She is everything I could want in a partner. I have never felt the way that she makes me feel with anyone else before. She has also told me that she has never felt the way she does with anyone else but me. She has even said that she loves me. Now the part I am confused about is the fact that she wants to have a relatiionship with me… Wants to see me, date me, do things together like any other couple (boyfriend/girlfriend) would do, but not be committed. How do you see someone without being committed? For me I guess it just sounds like she wants to be able to keep her options open, in case someone else comes along or that she doesn’t have to check in when she’s out with friends or whomever. She has told me that she is not interested in anyone else or seeing anyone but me. I’m scared I’ll just be setting myself up for heartbreak if I allow the relationship to continue in this direction. Can anyone please give me your thoughts as to what you think or what you would do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sorry — but your girlfriend is right. After only a month of dating, it’s appropriate for her to want to keep her options open — and that gives you the opportunity to try and win her over! 😉 It’s okay to be scared of heartbreak, but you can’t let your fear paralyze you. The only way to gain confidence is to get out there knowing that things may or may not work out, but that you’re going to give it all your best shot and be the best man you know how, and if she wants you, then she’s in luck! 😉

For more help winning her over, check out my book written for men who are afraid they may not get the girl they want. It’s called Date Out of Your League, and it’s written specifically for men. You can download it here [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. It’s a quick read that will help you a lot.

[Ella Marie]

It sounds like she wants the benefits of a relationship without commitment. Don’t settle for less if you are looing for a serious relationship. Step back now and look for someone who’s sure about you.

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