What your mother said may have been a little crude, but it was the feeling that many mothers have for their children, and she’s not the first or last mother to ever utter those words. If this guy you’ve been dating for a month is so upset by that comment, he’s going to have trouble dating other women — most of whom have mothers who feel that way about their own daughters (to say nothing of the fathers!) and may say the same thing in different words, if not indicate it with their behavior. My advice is to not bring the issue up again, and if you do, or if he does, laugh it off as your mother loving you so much, she’d take it personally if you were hurt. In fact, if you had a child, you’d probably want them not to be hurt, too. Next, recognize that if he’s really using [i]this[/i] as a reason not to date you, then he’s not being honest with you, and is using this as an excuse for other things that he’s not happy about, but doesn’t want to bring up. Overall, understand that at the one month mark, you’re still getting to know each other, and if this doesn’t work out, you haven’t invested too much in terms of time, and not every relationship is going to result in a marriage! That’s why dating is such a great process — you get to find out who people are and if they’re compatible with you. In this case, he’s either too sensitive (think about anything else that he may take offense to down the line!) or using this incident as an excuse because he’s just not that into you.
I hope that helps.
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