You go from “good morning, beautiful” to radio silence like someone flipped a switch, and you’re left replaying everything wondering what the hell happened. The truth is, a lot of guys like the idea of connection more than the responsibility that comes with it. When things are new, it’s exciting low stakes, all chemistry, no real risk. But the second it starts to feel real, some guys panic. They don’t ghost because you did something wrong. They ghost because they can’t handle showing up consistently once emotions get involved.
I’ve been that guy once, years ago, before I understood what real commitment meant. I’d pull back when I felt vulnerable, convincing myself it was better to disappear than admit I was scared or unsure. Looking back, I wish I’d had the guts to just say, “Hey, I’m not ready for this.”
So, no, you didn’t miss a memo. What you’re seeing is how emotionally immature some people can be when they’re faced with something genuine. And yeah, it’s unfair, because you end up doing all the emotional cleanup for someone else’s fear.
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