[Anonymous]

I met a guy two weeks ago on a friday while out with friends. He texted me the next day saying how nice it was to meet me and on sunday contacted me again asking to grab lunch sometime that week. We made lunch plans for that upcoming friday, however on tuesday he texted me asking if I would like to grab a drink after work. I couldn’t, so I offered thursday and we met up then. We had a fabulous time and he even tried to prolong the date by saying how much he was enjoying himself and didn’t want it to end, however I had plans with friends. We chatted via text later that evening and he mentioned how he was looking forward to seeing me again.

On Saturday, he texted me to see how my friday night went, so I invited him to meet up that evening since I was going to be in the city area (which is where he lived). Unfortunately, he already had plans outside of the city but said he would let me know if he returned to his area in time. He texted me as he promised, but I just left the city to go to a friends house. I invited him out there, but he said he was too tired. I admit I was a little “spicy” in my responses (example: telling him he should just “go to sleep because he seemed tired” and when he said he probably should and too bad he missed me I replied “yea too bad! goodnight”). The next day I felt awkward about how I responded so I texted him just to see if he would respond back, which he did. We had a short conversation as usual and that was that.

From that point on, I did not hear from him (which was two days) so I texted him like friends told me to just saying that I hope his week was going well and asked if he wanted to grab a drink sometime this week. He replied that his week has been busy as well and asked if I drove an SUV. I said I didn’t and asked him why and he replied that he bought a ping pong table and his friend who drove a truck was nowhere to be found and needed to find a way to get it back to his house. I told him I was sorry that I couldn’t be of assistance but I wished him luck. He responded that it was okay because he had an idea and to which I responded “good”. I was upset and felt used because he never mentioned anything about getting together for a drink. It has now been 24 hours and I still havent heard from him. I honestly do not get what happened and would really appreciate any advice! Thought things were going well…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Not every man you like is going to like you back, and same goes for every guy who expects our attentions just because he happens to like you. This guy isn’t interested, although you had a nice time on that first date. It’s inappropriate for you to feel “used” because you weren’t — not even close! It just didn’t play out the way you wanted it to.

That said, you really need to understand the dynamics of getting the guy. You should read Think & Date Like A Man, that you can purchase here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], because it will give you a lot of hints and tips that you don’t seem to grasp. For instance — you shouldn’t chase him. If you don’t hear from him, don’t text him to see if he’s still interested. Let him come after you! Men love to chase women, and if he isn’t chasing you it’s because he’s not interested, or…..you’re not giving him something to chase.

To be the woman that men want to chase you have to cultivate some allure and mystique. You can learn all about this in Think & Date Like A Man, which I really hope you’ll get and read — and let me know what you think! It’s going to help you a lot.

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