[Anonymous]

I don’t know what to do anymore. We have been dating for a little over one year now and all we seem to do is fight. When we first got together every thing was fine and we never had a fight. But around five months of being together we all of sudden started fighting about everything. I am scared that the fighting will pull us apart. I am doing everything i can to stop the fighting but nothing is working. Please tell me why we are fighting and what i can do to fix it?

[kai]

Hey Emilee, like i mentioned to several other posters — April has told everyone that the welcome area [b]is not for questions[/b] and [u]should not[/u] be used to get advice. 😮 it says “DO NOT post your questions” here, when you go to sign up. 😳

i suggest you [u]delete the questions you posted in the welcome forum [/u]and [b]repost them in the Q & A Relationship Advice Forum[/b] .

you probably won’t get a response to your question here — in the welcome area. 😀

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Sally]

What usually happens is the first few months are easy because you’re both on your best behavior. Then real life shows up. Habits, fears, old stuff you both carry. That’s often when fighting starts. It doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something underneath isn’t being heard.
The part that worries me is you saying you’re doing everything you can to stop the fighting. One person can’t fix a two-person problem. If you’re trying harder and harder and it keeps getting worse, that’s not about effort anymore.
Ask yourself this quietly. When you’re not fighting, do you feel safe, calm, and respected? Or are you just waiting for the next blowup?
Love shouldn’t feel like constant damage control. If it does, it’s okay to question why.

[Member]

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