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So i haven’t heard from my bf for the past 5 days. I’ve tried texting him and i’ve called him once, but no response. I texted him this morning that i wasnt going to bother him anymore, etc. I don’t use facebook anymore, but my friend said he was on like 3 days ago, but i don’t know whats wrong? He won’t even answer me to tell me he’s okay. He knows i worry easily. We’ve been together for 7 months now and everything was going well and he’s always told me loved me. He moved to another state though cause of his job and we’ve been trying to make it work. He’s done this before in the past, but never for this long. I haven’t done anything wrong, so i don’t know what i did to deserve this. I feel like im literally going nuts! We’ve broken up before because we both agreed he couldnt give me the time and attention cause he’s always so busy with work and stuff but we got back together 2 weeks later cause he said he never wanted to break up and i wasnt happy without him. But sending someone a text doesnt even take that long! My eyes are swollen from crying so much cause I dont know what to think. Maybe something could’ve happened to him? Its not like i can just drive to his house since hes 2 states away from me. The only peace i get is when im sleeping cause i constantly think about it. I hate getting up every morning knowing that im most likely going to be miserable. Why do i have to be the overly emotional one? I’ve never been emotional over any guy. I know he wouldnt cheat cause thats just not him and he even said he’d never do that. To make myself feel a bit better ive started to scratch myself again. I know i shouldnt but it makes me feel better in a way. Its so stupid of me to make a fool of myself over someone who obviously is ignoring me, but i can’t help it, i love him so much. I’ve tried not to do it. It’s just weird that this would happen all of a sudden without even knowing why! I dont know what to do. I always hear “get over him” but thats so much easier said than done. Maybe keep hoping that he’ll come around and talk to me and everything will be okay? or what?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, if you really think something has happened to him, then call the police and tell them. Worrying and doing nothing about what could be a real safety issue isn’t a good idea. 😉 [i]But[/i], if he’s done this before and your gut tells you that he’s just not that into you, then it’s time to accept that and move on. If that’s the reason you’re so upset — because you think this is his way of breaking up with you, or that it’s his way of slowing the relationship down to a halt, then you have to be honest with yourself that that’s what’s happening. You’re right — if someone wants to break up with you, it’s much more civilized to be honest and straightforward about it, but sometimes people do whatever they can to break up, and not everyone is good at it. Your boyfriend may be trying to avoid a confrontation and upsetting you by not breaking up with you face to face, and even sending you a text or picking up the phone to call you isn’t going to work for him. He just wants to avoid dealing with your disappointment altogether. 😳

As for your “scratching” or cutting yourself, this is a serious problem, and you need to go see your physician and be honest with him about what’s happening.

All in all, this problem isn’t about him not talking to you as much as it is about you being honest with yourself about what’s really happening. 😉

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It should be normal, i think within a week from now, it happens that some words or even things hurts. He will talk to you, type sorry and send it to him. I think he love you too much and cant loose you. 😆

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you.
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