I don’t know how to phrase this. I was “seeing” a man for seven months. At this point in time, I don’t fully understand the “relationship”. He was a friend of several friends, both male and female, who I hadn’t noticed even though we had been at the same place at the same time on several occasions. He friended me on Facebook and we started talking regularly. We had lunch a few times (he worked 2nd shift) and we started hanging out, mainly at my apartment. He didn’t actually try to get me in bed right away … it was months (at least three!) before I slept with him! We talked on a daily basis usually. He fixed my car and helped me move. He even offered to hang shelves for me. But he usually didn’t make prior plans with me. He usually contacted me and asked if I was busy, and if I wasn’t, he would come over (and he didn’t always try to get me in bed … several times we just watched tv and cuddled). But one of the FEW times he makes plans with me, he cancels … not once … each time it was a PLANNED “date”, he cancels! And it’s usually a major catastrophe! He was a hypo-glycemic situation, his uncle dies, or his cousin just got out of the hospital. After this last cancellation, I told him I felt like a regular lay. He had made plans with me Wednesday to see me Friday (he had the day off!), we had sex Thursday (and afterwards, after hanging out for a while, he tells me he would see me the next day), and then he cancels Friday. After telling him how I felt, that I felt like a booty call, he tells me he’s “ashamed to admit how much he cares about me”. Wth does that mean?
I’ve unfriended him on Facebook and I’m giving some serious consideration to changing my number so that he won’t be able to contact me the next time he wants layed. I’m incredibly hurt and I don’t know if I was some type of game to him or what it was.
Will a man put that much effort and waste that much time pursuing a woman he only wants to have sex with?
