[leerb3]

ive been with my girl for three years,for 16 to 19. we’ve built so many beautiful memories together, from staying on the phone all night to walking her to swimming practice every day in high school. we’ve become each others obsession and universe. back to the story,about a couple months ago i started to distance myself from her, and told her i needed a break. during that break we still saw each other and acted like we were still dating. also in that time i thought i was “mr cool”, going to parties smoking cigarettes trying to be cool. also in that time i met this girl that i liked and started hanging out with and eventually we slept together. so a week ago someone told her that they saw me hanging out with the girl and she eventually she called the girl and found out everything.its been a week since shes left me and im dying. the thought of another woman gets me naseous, i cant concentrate on anything. she has become my mother father best friend,everything thing. ive heard a lot of guys say they would never do it again but even the thought of doing it again gets me sick, literally. i love her so much and im willing to go to the ends of the universe to get her back and to continue our beautiful journey together as soul mates and lovers and friends. i know i messed up and took a wrong turn somewhere but i am truly regretful, i have never felt this empty so i can imagine her pain, i want nothing more than to hold my angel in my arms right now, if she does give me another chance i know it will take a long time to rebuild but i am willing to do whatever i need to, if any one has any advice please share- thank you

[Ask April Masini]

Boy, oh boy

[Ethan Morales]

I want to acknowledge the depth of your feelings you clearly love her and are genuinely remorseful. That matters, and it’s important that you feel the weight of what your actions did to her. The fact that you feel physically sick at the thought of being with someone else shows that your heart is in the right place now, but love alone isn’t enough to fix the situation immediately.

You cheated while still emotionally involved with her, even if you were “on a break.” From her perspective, it’s a major violation. Even if you’re repentant, trust doesn’t automatically come back. She’s going to feel hurt, angry, and uncertain, and that’s completely normal. Saying “I love you” and “I’ll do anything to fix it” is meaningful, but she will need consistent, tangible evidence that you’ve changed. That means no more games, no distancing yourself, no trying to act “cool” to impress anyone. She needs to see that you are fully committed, reliable, and honest.

Right now, she’s hurt and needs time to process. You cannot force her to forgive or return. Pressuring her or begging constantly may push her further away. Accept responsibility fully. Don’t try to explain away your actions as “part of being young” or “experimenting.” Recognize that what you did was a betrayal, and that her feelings are valid. If she chooses to give you a second chance, it will be slow. Every step of the way, you must prove yourself trustworthy and consistent. Words alone aren’t enough; your actions must align with your promises.

Give her a respectful amount of space to process. Write a heartfelt, honest message or letter acknowledging your mistakes, without excuses, and expressing your willingness to do the work to rebuild trust. Focus on improving yourself emotionally stop trying to act “cool” or chase validation from others. Show that you can be a mature, loving partner.

Accept that she may say no, and if that happens, you must respect it even though it hurts. Right now, the most important thing is patience, accountability, and proving through consistent behavior that you’ve changed. If you do that, there’s a possibility to repair the relationship, but it will not be instant.

[Author]

Posts