[papaki5]

I totally get what you are saying and will do exactly what you advice. I had it in my head to speak to him as you have said when we are both back in the same city next week. I will see how it goes. Like you say if he cannot do a relationship without the anxiety and unfounded doubts I will pull out.
I realized today that it is not rude to ignore a dysfunctional text! So thanks for confirming it for me!! I am getting there 😀
Thank you so much!!

[papaki5]

Thanks April.
I have tried the ‘no response’ technique for a while now and it seemed to send him into overdrive! I have only responded when he comes out with something that suggests I do not care or think badly of him. Such as when he lied worrying that I would think he was a slacker. I simply told him I do not think he is a slacker. I will persevere though and literally not respond to anything as you say.
I also have not been replying to all his texts/emails/calls. As I say this makes him very anxious and eventually I will reply. But is it ok for me to ignore a text when he is asking why I have not replied (several hours after his original text)? I would feel I was being rude if I did not answer the second text if it was from a friend, if only to say I am busy. But I do not want to facilitate his behavior.
I am just trying to find the balance here as I have never dealt with anything like this from a guy before.
Thank you so much! You give really straight-forward advice and it is appreciated!! 😀

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