[DazednConfused]

Thanks very much for the advice. I didn’t think I was game playing ; I thought I was doing what was best for him by letting him go, then breaking up with him because I didn’t want to be the reason why he may regret giving up such a great career opportunity. But after reading your comments, I realize that I am game playing which was never my intention. I need to carefully examine all the reasons why to work things out, or end the relationship. After these two years apart, I need to ask myself if I really want to be with the person he has become, and not use this situation as an excuse. Thanks again.

[DazednConfused]

I would nip this in the bud very early on and hope for a good outcome. I have been through the same thing, and it’s always ended the same way–badly. The person you are with doesn’t want to or is afraid to say how she feels, not what she thinks, but how she feels. You need to take some time when you both are calm, let her know she dosn’t have to be afraid to share with you, and that being honest and knowing the truth iis better than guessing what is going on with her. Find out what the issue is and try to compromise. You will know if she wants to be with you if she is willing to compromise.

[Member]

Posts