[Anonymous]

ive been with my girlfriend just over 1 year and a ahlf. shes almost 18 im 19. we r inlove, have fun and we live together. we also work together. latlely like once a week well be fine and happy then shell just switch off. i ask her whats wrong and shes says duno! sometimes she says she needs space, she wants go out with her riends. ive never stoped her from seeing her friends shes always chosen to hang with me instead. lastnight she said she wnts to move back with her mum to give us space and so she can have her own money instead of sharing. i dont want her to go i love waking up to see her. if she wants to spend money on something i dont care. half is hers but she dosent. i dont want her to go is there something wrong with me what do i do??

[DazednConfused]

I would nip this in the bud very early on and hope for a good outcome. I have been through the same thing, and it’s always ended the same way–badly. The person you are with doesn’t want to or is afraid to say how she feels, not what she thinks, but how she feels. You need to take some time when you both are calm, let her know she dosn’t have to be afraid to share with you, and that being honest and knowing the truth iis better than guessing what is going on with her. Find out what the issue is and try to compromise. You will know if she wants to be with you if she is willing to compromise.

[Ask April Masini]

[b]Dazednconfused[/b] offered you some good advice about opening the channels of communication with your girlfriend. Talking and learning more about her feelings can only help you and the relationship. However, if she is looking for some freedom, there’s not a lot you can do about that. You are both very young to be living together and working together. For some people that works, but for most people, and perhaps your girlfriend is one of them, this is a time of life to figure out what you want, and if you’re living and working with someone, it’s hard to figure that out.

You may have to let her go, and know you did your best, but that this relationship may not be right for her at this time in her life.

I hope that helps. 🙂

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