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Trust me in this. The longer you stay with this man, the more doubts (self-esteem issues) you will have about yourself. Sticking around in the hopes that someday he “might,” “possibly,” “maybe,” “could” realize he has a good thing is wasting both of your time.

He has told you in so many ways that he’s not in to you. If he truly cared about you, he would respect your feelings and want to do what’s good for you. Instead, the man leers at other women in front of you, expects you to be at his beck and call, calls you retarded, blows you off to talk to other women on facebook, expects you to take care of all his needs and even makes you pay for your car parts? Oh goody!

The fact that he throws you a bone once in a while by saying something nice to you does not make up for the fact that most of the time he’s disrespecting you and emotionally abusing you. Run! Run!!!! Run!!!!!!

This is from someone who has been there myself and has held a lot of hands of girls in your same position. Don’t waste a moment’s more time. And don’t fall for it when he comes begging to get you back…they do that, but it really won’t get better.

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Because I’m assuming she’s coming from a Christian perspective, I would imagine by courtship she’s meaning something more than wooing.

Courtship is essentially a way for Christians to determine if they want to marry one another.

This is how Nathan Bailey at polynate.net describes the difference between dating and courting:

“In the modern dating scene you usually hide all your faults to give a false impression about yourself, in order to keep your partner liking you. Recreational dating is about self-gratification — you date to satisfy your own needs.
Courtship is about open and honest exploration of each others lives and families leading up to engagement and marriage. Courtship is about marriage — you court in order to see if there is any reason why you shouldn’t get married. There is no romantic interaction until after the commitment to marriage.”

But Christians all have different forms of courtship. Some will not be alone with the person they are courting. Some will only court someone if that person gets her father’s approval first. Some won’t kiss or even hold hands.

Your best bet is to find out what she means by courting…simply by asking her.

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