[ms1977]

I’ve been in your shoes and it’s not much fun.

In my case, I decided the friendship and having her be a permanent part of my life were more important than romantic involvement and losing her forever if it didn’t work out.

It was rough; a lot of hurt feelings, confusion and jealousy to contend with, but she is still my very best friend to this day (this November, it will be 12yrs) – my soulmate.

My advice to you is to figure out important this girl is to you; imagine far into the future. If you can see her there, then keep going as you are now. It won’t be easy and you may not end up together, but you may discover an unbreakable bond with her and she with you.

[ms1977]

So… I did finally hear back from her and we went to lunch today. I still have no idea if she is disinterested or playing hard to get, though.

Lunch went well and the fact that she doesn’t seem to mind that its only the two of us and not a group outing with other co-workers COULD indicate an interest, but she doesn’t make any point to contact me on her own, which COULD indicate no interest. I messaged her after lunch to thank her for going and told her I thought she was great and enjoyed her company mixed in with stupid humor; my roundabout way of saying, “hey, I like you” without getting “hand-slapped”. No response yet, though… but it was just this afternoon that I sent it…. though I did see her online a bit ago, so I can probably assume she’s already read it (that sounds kinda stalkerish, but it was honestly just by chance that I noticed).

We have the “date” planned for the weekend of Feb 3rd, so I guess I’ll have to wait and see what she says when I ask to confirm it; will just wait until the week of to do that.

I wish I could just read minds, ha! Any definitive way to painlessly figure out if she just isn’t interested?

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