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funny, he text me this morning saying he just wants to be friends. says he feels like he’s taking time away from his kids, that he’s too busy and doesn’t have time for a girl friend. Then stated that i should find someone else to go to the wedding with because he doesn’t know if he can find a sitter…. he doesn’t even have the kids this weekend. Lame. so much for that one! But you’re right, i chased him and totally scared him away. live and learn i guess. it’s hard not to chase them when they put it out there heavy at first and as soon as you recipricate they freak out. what’s with that?

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Well, Since last Thursday it’s been downhill and i’m not sure if this is just me being insecure or what. Maybe you can touch base on this for me as I have mentioned a little already.

He came over later on Thrusday beause of work. We were chatting and had a nice hour together and he left. Friday morning we text a couple back and forth saying have a nice day. Friday and Saturday he had his kids and didn’t text me at all which is kinda odd but not because I know he’s busy. Do you think I should have text him first?

Sunday came and never heard from him so I text him at night and he called me. Nice, that’s a good sign. The conversation was dull and I had to ask him what he was doing for the week to make plans instead of him asking me. I noted his conversation above and we don’t really have plans as it just kinda blew over. So yesterday morning (Monday) i text him to have a great day and he never responded at all. Not even at night. He usually will say good night or ask how my day was and I got nothing. It’s Tuesday and I don’t know if I am freaking out over nothing but this really bothers me. Do I text him again? Do i ask him about our somewhat plans for tomorrow? What if I don’t hear from him today either? He doesn’t even have his kids this week. I don’t want to be needy but he knows that I am a planner and this bothers me not knowing what the plans are to see him again.

We are also going to a wedding on Saturday and I feel like he might not want to go with me or he is going because we already made plans… Please tell me if I’m over thinking this and freaking out for no reason. It drowns my day with all of these horrible thoughts. 🙁

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No reservations. I knew going into the date that he had kids and that he is a very active parent. What I do expect is for him to also think of me when he is with them and it would be nice to have a text or a short call. Although it’s not needed right now after 6 dates. I’ve just picked up that he is talks to me more when he’s not with them and then goes MIA when he is with them.

When you say that it sounds like there are no feelings, are you saying on my part or his? When he is with me he is so touchy feely and loves to be around me. It’s when we are not together that it get distant. The conversation can some times feel forced. So this whole weekend I didn’t text him because I wanted him to chase me but in the end I feel like he was tired of always having to text me first and make the first move because I NEVER would text him first or call him first. In a sense I could see that being an issue. I do like him and love spending time with him but I hate feeling vulnerable and insecure. Possibly and most likely I am over thinking the situation but I know in past posts you say that if you’re thinking somethings wrong then there probably is.

Lastly, I am keeping my options open and am willing to still date other guys. In the last 4 weeks, this has never come up to go out with anyone else. I try to stay busy as possible and make my schedule full but since I want to see him I will change my schedule to see him or be around him. Since it’s not that often we can get together with his schedule and the kids. Is seeing a person 2 times a week too much? I haven’t dated but 2 other guys so dating is still new to me.

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