Unfortunately, I know someone who’s entirely in the same situation as you. She is with a guy who has no job and is living with her. They dated only for a few months before moving in together. She pays for rent, food, and even his son’s expenses. As a friend, I want to believe he truly loves her. But as an impartial third party, it’s really difficult to not have doubts.
I guess the best thing you can do is assess how much does he love you and how far can he compromise? If he loves you, then he’ll try to get a job to help with finances and secure the future. The idea that he is a dad should give him more incentives to want to have some money in his pocket. In addition, if he cares about how you feel, he’ll quit smoking weed or AT LEAST stop using your car to go buy weed knowing that he can make you liable for his irresponsibility if anything were to happen while he’s driving your car. On a positive note, the fact that he’s willing to help around the house does go to show that he wants to contribute equally.
With my friend’s situation, I want to tell her to stop spending so much on him and his child when unnecessary. SHe keeps on complaining how he wants to take his son out to theme parks but expects her to pay for everything. If that’s the case, then she shouldn’t do it. Why would you want to pay for something and at the same time complain?? She too has doubts sometimes. Hope everything works out for you!
