[PrincessK]

So I decided to break up with my boyfriend because I felt like he wasn’t putting in any effort to make me or himself happy. After the breakup, we were both really upset. He really wasn’t expecting it and the thought of not seeing him again when we were both unhappy was hard. We talked about our feelings and he invited me over last night.

When I went to visit, he was much more affectionate and talkative than usual. He seemed like he was really making an effort to change his behavior. I asked him if he still wanted to be with me and he told me that he wanted to get back together, but he needs to be happy with himself first before he can make me happy. I thought that was a good answer because it would be pointless to just get back together right away when he is clearly depressed and unhappy with life at the moment. He said he still wants to talk to me and hang out with me. He just needs some space because he is currently stressed out because he needs to take a lot of tests to advance at his job right now and he needs time to study.

We also both compete in weight lifting competitions that are coming up soon. He told me he still wants me to come see his and he wants to drive me and come watch mine. This made me happy because I was really stressed that we were going to break up and not see each other ever again. He said that he has no interest in seeing other people and that he wants to be with me in the future.

I’m happy that he is trying to better himself and get out of his funk. However, I’m still stressed because I don’t know how long this “break” will last. I’m nervous that it will last forever. Do you think this is a good thing and a step in the right direction? I don’t know why I’m stressing over everything. 🙄

[PrincessK]

thank you for the advise. I was thinking that I need to let him go because it’s not healthy to be in a relationship where I feel unwanted. 😳

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