[Ashleyxkanton]

I’m sorry to bother you again April and I appreciate all your help I just wanted to update you. He didn’t tell me but I saw that he deleted his account!! This makes me so happy. What does this mean now? Is it a good thing?

[Ashleyxkanton]

Okay so let me get this straight. My boyfriend does have feelings for me and wants to be with me right now but he is unsure about the future because he’s leaving so he’s keeping his options open for when he gets back from boot camp? So he’s trying to meet women now to keep himself secure?

[Ashleyxkanton]

what kind of relationship is he looking for? we are official on facebook so if he’s becoming friends with girls on facebook they can see that he’s in a relationship with me. could he really just be making friends on plentyoffish? or do you think he’s keeping me around until he finds something better? we got into an argument yesterday and he said “it’s about trust..do you not trust me..i’ve told you so many times it’s nothing, i promise..trust me.” and he told me i don’t do anything wrong because i told him i’m trying to understand what i do wrong, or if something is lacking in the relationship. could he just need an ego boost? my guy friends told me he probably just likes having it for attention and an ego boost and they told me he’s dating me, so i need to trust him. it’s difficult because he loves being the center of attention and he has a good amount of female friends to begin with so i’m wondering if he is being honest and just wants to make female friends? i don’t know..please explain this to me..i’m not looking for marriage..but if he’s not serious about me then why did i meet his parents? why did he meet my parents? why are we going to ocean city together? i said to him “i wanna be with you..if you don’t wanna be with me..end it now” and he said “i do wanna be with you, trust me if i didn’t i would tell you, and we wouldn’t even be having this conversation.”

1. does he have feelings for me at all?
2. is he keeping me around to wait for something better to come along?
3. OR could this really be his need and desire to make female friends and get attention because he is seriously so insecure?
4. why would he meet my parents and why would I meet his parents if he wasn’t serious about me and him? (and i don’t mean marriage wise)
5. could he be having doubts about the relationship and when someone better comes along he breaks up with me?

[Ashleyxkanton]

ughh april i don’t know what to do..yesterday my friend found my boyfriend on plentyoffish..the free dating website (where we met). it was updated info, and his intent says “looking for a relationship” and i’m so hurt right now. i called him and we talked about it and he didn’t deny having it he explained that he has it to meet friends, like facebook. and that when you have “looking for a relationship” you get more messages..but then he told me he doesn’t pursue it and nobody even messages him. he even said “i’ll delete it if you want me to” and i said “you don’t have to delete it..it’s your life do what you want..but i’m just trying to understand why you would have that” and he told me that it was nothing to worry about, he wants to be with me. he said “why would i bring you home to my family, and why would i be bringing you to ocean city in a few weeks, and why would i meet your parents, and why would i be with you in a relationship if i didn’t want to be with you.” and i said “i don’t know that’s what i’m trying to understand.” and i told him “listen if you have other intentions..and you just wanna have fun since you’re leaving in 6 months, please don’t waste my time..just be honest with me.” and he said “i am not wasting your time i wanna be with you.” and he’s been cheated on before so i don’t feel that he’s actually cheated on me..but i don’t know i have an uneasy feeling and then i felt like he was kissing my ass. he randomly called me just to say hi and tell me he loves me etc. but now i’m feeling really bothered by it..i wanna tell him to delete it or make his intent “looking for friendship” i don’t know if he just needs an ego boost, or he’s looking for something better and i just feel so sad and not good enough 🙁 i’m really hurt and i know i do so much for him, i give him so much freedom, i’m not nagging, or bitchy, i always approach things in a calm cool manner and i’m never accusing him of anything. i just would rather him tell me he doesn’t wanna be with me and he wants to have fun because even though that would hurt, it would hurt a lot less than him cheating on me or leaving me for someone else.

ughh what do i do? what do you think about this situation?

[Ashleyxkanton]

He did ask for me to go like just him and me but then he suggested friends coming so I had people to keep me company while he was playing because he is actually playing in the lacrosse tournament. And also I realize he’s not serious marriage wise, neither am I but he had these female friends years before me and also we are boyfriend and girlfriend. It is official on Facebook and all of his friends and family know it. If he didn’t have feelings for me or wasnt somewhat serious about me why did he bring me home to his family to meet his parents and why did he ask me to be his girlfriend. He’s leaving in January he could have easily kept this casual and he could have been single just experimenting and enjoying life before he leaves, correct? So does he not have feelings for me then and I’m just a good time? Or does he have feelings for me and wants to see what happens and we will cross that bridge when he leaves in january

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