[Chicken]

Thanks for the response. I agree with you. In fact, I have often told my boyfriend that I think our baggage is incompatible.

If you don’t mind, I have another question for you.

What do you think about a person’s ability to change, if the desire to change comes from within their own self?

In other words, although I have doubts about his ability to live up to his promises right now, we are in counseling. The hope is that he will learn to live up to his promises while I learn to rebuild trust.

Counseling is something that my husband of 14 years would never do with me when I was trying to save our marriage. I was incredibly impressed with my boyfriend’s complete willingness to go to counseling with me.

A mutual male friend told me that, from a man’s perspective, his willingness to go to counseling says a lot about how he feels about me and our relationship.

Obviously I want to believe that is true and I appreciate the fact that he is trying.

Do you think that there is the possibility that we could both learn how to dump our baggage and move on together or do you feel that I am wasting my time in counseling with him?

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