[WickedTrombone]

Thanks for all the advice thus far April. I’ll definitely give the book a look!

I apologize for flooding your board with questions of my own but I don’t have many others to turn to with experience in regards to stuff like this.

Is it normal to have minimal communication between eachother between dates? My logical mind tells me if you’re interested in someone, you make a reasonable effort to chat with them whether over the phone or text between dates. You would respond or even initiate texts / phone calls if interested. She’s not responded to my last 3 texts or initiated anything back for the past few days since the date Tuesday, but has time to update her FB status. I know it’s good that she has continued to accept and meet me on dates on my terms, but it’s a little bothersome there hasn’t been as much communication inbetween as I would have liked. In person, she has no problem kissing me, or holding my hand in public. I guess you could say I’m somewhat of an active texter and to see she isn’t is a little discouraging. Am I reading too much into this lack of communication on her part?

Is this a sign of disinterest? Is she on the fence? Does she not want to rush things? Plenty of things running through my mind after 5 dates.

Thanks again for any response April!

[WickedTrombone]

Hey Amber, the date went pretty well. We had a lot of fun. She was a good sport, had a headache most of the day, she said she took some medicine to spend the day with me. By the time we got back to her place, she said her head was pounding again so I just laid in bed with her and she cuddled up against me.

This is the 5th time we’ve seen eachother. We do NOT have much of a communication line as far as telephone goes. She’s pretty unreliable with her phone, and I’ve witnessed it firsthand while she’s with me. One of her family members even left a voicemail for her, which she let me listen to on speaker because it was funny, complaining how she never answers the phone.

My question to you is, what’s needed to take the next step here? We haven’t had sex yet, and the closest was that fiasco I mentioned in a post earlier. We hug and kiss and hold hands but have yet to go much further. Do I somehow bring up the subject of where she thinks we’re heading? Do I keep rolling out the dates and see what happens? I fear about being the guy who keeps taking her out and paying for her (she did pay for me once which was good) and not advance in the relationship.

Another question, we seem to be seeing eachother once a week on average. Is this a good pace? Sometimes I wish I could see her more often to speed things along while we’re still in summer.

[WickedTrombone]

[quote=”April Masini”]Maybe I misunderstood, but here’s what I read:

[quote]I left a message stating I wanted to see her again on Wednesday and to get back to me.

She got back to me alright, 8 hours later. She sent me a text just saying ‘Hey!’ and I said Hi. She asked ‘How are you?’ I said I was doing well, what have you been up to? And we’re silent again.[/quote]

I don’t see anywhere here that you asked her out on a date. 😯 You said you wanted to see her, and she called you back, but you failed to invite her to do something specific like dinner, a movie, etc.

Did I miss something?[/quote]
Alright, I called again and she picked up. She sounded like she just woke up or was crying or something. Asked her if anything was wrong and she kind of hesitated like um…no everythings okay. I was going to plan something for Wednesday but I asked her if she had any plans tonight. She said no she was just laying in bed, so I said well we can do X tonight then? She said yeah. So we’re meeting in a few hours. Right after we hung up she texted me saying she’s been sick the past couple of days and feels like crap. I suppose that could be a reason for her not being very responsive.

She’s feeling sick but she still wants to see me tonight? I don’t know if that’s good that she feels under the weather and still wants to see me, or bad because she might get me sick lol.

[WickedTrombone]

[quote=”April Masini”]You’re complicating this, and it’s simple: [i]If you want to date her, then ask her out.[/i]

You didn’t. She lost interest. Now, you’re trying to make the absence of a date you never actually proposed to her, about other things, and it’s not. 😕

If you want to date her, then be clear about it. Call her up and ask her out on a date on the phone because women like to hear men’s voices. 😉 If you don’t want to ask her out, then move on.

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I did ask her. I called yesterday and left a voicemail about Wednesday and for her to get back to me. Her texting ‘hi’ and ‘how are you?’ is her getting back to me about that?

I’ll call her once more, if I get voicemail again then what do I do here? 👿

[WickedTrombone]

[quote=”April Masini”]From what you’ve written it sounds like she likes you, but you dropped the ball. 😮 When you left her a message saying you wanted to see her on Wednesday, she responded — but then you didn’t ask her out on a date. That sent her the message that you lost interest. If you want to date her, ask her out! 😉 She sounds like she’d say yes again.

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Thanks for the response April. My main issue here is I don’t want to appear needy or clingy. I’ve sent the last message. She hadn’t acknowledged she even heard my voicemail in the two messages she sent me late at night. I find recently, I’m having a lot of trouble staying in contact with her consistently. I kind of feel as if she has me on the backburner.

Should I text her once more about the Wednesday proposal, (she still hasn’t responded to my last message from last night), or should I call again? As I said, she hasn’t acknowledged my voicemail, and I do not want to appear clingy or weak. So yes, while on one hand it appears she likes me, the lack of communication throws me off.

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