[throw621]

Wow, the way you’ve worded your advice is super helpful to me. I’ve been pondering over how that conversation would make me [i]seem [/i]to her, as opposed to trying to imagine accurately what she would [i]feel[/i]. I think you are quite right in that regard, and it’s definitely a female perspective I would not have been able to come up with myself.

Yes it’s definitely a lesson I’ll carry forward to future relationships. If I feel like I truly love someone, I’m just going to let them know instead of turning it into a stupid game. But I’m still going to wait until I’m sure it’s love.

I’ve decided I’m not going to make a big deal out of this, I’ve made that mistake once before. Thank you again, your advice has been absolutely invaluable to me, and I really value you taking the time out of your day to comment on my unique relationship issue(s) individually.

[throw621]

Ok. If I meet with her one last time to clear this up, would it be a good idea to honestly confess my feelings for her, and address all the issues I mentioned previously? Or would it be better to leave it unsaid and just say I can’t be her friend? I feel like if I don’t tell her how much I loved her, and how anxious I got in the dying months of the relationship, I’d be tempted to reconnect at some point in the future to get it off my chest, or always be wondering if she knew how much I cared for her and wanted her in my future. Not sure if having an ex profess his love for you is the most attractive thing though. To clarify, I would just state it as fact, not try and use it as a way of asking her to reconsider. Example: I really loved you, and I’m sorry I never let you know. I’m willing to reconcile our relationship, but only if you want to as well.

Thanks for all the advice thus far!

[throw621]

Sorry that wasn’t clear – it was an exclusive relationship. I asked her out 2 days after I met her, we were kissing on the first date, the chemistry was very intense. We were intimate by the second date, a week later. I asked her to be my girlfriend 3ish months after that.

We were very attracted to each other physically as well as mentally. I met her family about a month into dating, she hadn’t met mine at all because mine are back in Canada. We had met loads of each others friends, etc. We took our first trip together 4 months into the relationship, etc. It was all very romantic and intense.

I don’t want to settle for being friends. I only agreed to it initially because I was unsure what she wanted? My thought was that, as she was trying to reconnect with me, and she wanted to be friends, she wants me in her life for some reason or another. I said yes so I can figure out what that reason is. I’m hoping it’s because she wants to give us another go, but if that’s not the reason then I’ll have to cut her out of my life.

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