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April…thanks for the quick response. We’re both in our mid 40’s and have been together for 5yrs. He’s not having any relationships with other women if I gave that impression. I was mainly questioning his rational for having such a personal convo with someone he was with on an intimate level after 20 odd yrs or so. I’m also questioning whether has in fact put up a red flag for me by indicating that he may want to work with persons he has had personal relations with or people who may have shown interest in him and if I were to have a problem with it then we need to iron this issue so that we can move on. My response to this was clear. I told him I will never stand in his way of professional development where this is concerned….however I will have concerns if it becomes personal rather than professional…and I asked him what does he have in place to ensure that it does not affect me emotionally….we are currently in a very tense sit right now. All I want to do is iron this out whichever way it has to go. I don’t think my line of questioning was unfounded based on his response. I look forward to your response. Personally I really don’t think this can be resolved based on his sarcastic response and intent on letting me know I have to be bigger than this. I am not going to be a sitting duck

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