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[quote=”April Masini”]You’re putting all the responsibility on her by asking what she wants from you — when the reality is, you should be asking what it is that YOU want. Getting that answer is going to be a lot easier. 😉

If you want to date a girl, then you have to really do it. No excuses. When you said that you dated her for a couple of months but couldn’t make a move because there were other people on your date….. 😯 that’s not a date. A date is the two of you. You have to ask her out on a real date so she knows that that’s what it is. A movie is a date. Going out on a Saturday night for ice cream or dinner — that’s a real date. Inviting her hiking and on a picnic — that’s a real date. It’s fine to want to study together, but that doesn’t convey to her that you really want to date her. So, although in your head, you were dating her, she may very well have not realized the same thing! When you ask a woman out on a date and she says yes, you’ll know that she wants to date you. It’s that simple — but you have to do the work. You can’t skirt around it, and then wonder if she likes you or not. If she says no, and turns you down, then you’ll know she’s not interested in dating. 😉

[quote]Basically what I want to know other than what she wants is:
1. If I should contact her or just wait and see if she ever contacts me? If so, how much longer should I wait before contacting her?[/quote]

If you want to date her, then you should ask her out on a date. That’s how the typical dynamic goes. 🙂

[quote]2. How should I go about figuring out what she wants?[/quote]

Easy! If you ask her out on a date real date — one where it’s very clear that it’s a date — and she says yes, then you should assume she wants to date you. If she says no, she doesn’t.

[quote]3. If she wants to get together, what should I suggest that we do?[/quote]

If you know what she likes, then obviously, you should try and create a date that’s going to make her happy. The zoo, a sports event that she’s interested in, a museum, a play, a movie, a concert, a meal, coffee, desert — those are all some ideas of typical dates!

[quote]4. If she doesn’t contact me within the next couple weeks then I might just text her, “I’ll see you at the start of school” basically saying that I’m tired of her. Is this a good idea?[/quote]

No. It’s not a good idea. If you’re truly tired of her, why expend the energy to tell her so. It’s insulting to her, and it doesn’t make you look like someone who’s generous or kind. It’s always good to make a good impression — even when someone rejects you. You never if and when things will turn around, and she may decide she’s interested in you again. Don’t burn bridges, unnecessarily. 😀

[quote]5. Should I go about trying to make her jealous with another girl that’s shown interest in me?[/quote]

Women love men who are desirable, and it’s always a good idea to pursue women, and have a good time. There’s a saying that living well is the best revenge, but I like to say that living well just makes other people want you. 😎

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Right, but she called it a “study date”, and was the one who had the idea originally I’m assuming that that meant it was an actual date and we were gonna be alone until she decided she had had enough of me. And nah we spent time alone at lunch during school but there were people around.

I also asked her in the 1st place on a legit “date” and she said yes to that but then she rescheduled and we ended up going on a double date. We also went to prom together.

She said she would “keep me updated” this summer, so I’m assuming if she doesn’t contact me then she’s not interested. I dunno if this is the right way to think about it though? But if she really wanted to get together she would probably contact me…

I’m cool with hanging out with her as a friend as well and that’s what I was getting at as to what should I suggest we do… as friends?
Cause I’m not tryna ask her on a date over text cause that’s just kinda lame to me at least. And she already said that she doesn’t want a relationship right now, so I don’t know if that could change or not but for it to change I feel like I have to change her perception of me as a “nice guy” that’s not really who I am, I just really wanted to keep her around for summer and had a screwed up perception that being so nice was the right thing to do…

She said yes to me every time I asked her to do something together, but the last time I eventually canceled it myself cause she was acting really shitty around me.

Ha I’m just pissed off that I never got an entirely direct response and she left me with the “I’m not looking for a relationship right now”, like does this mean you’ll be looking later or do you just want me to go away!? Guess I’ll wait another week and then seek out an actual direct response… she doesn’t seem like the type of girl to be doing that though… and I’m done with being led on.

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